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  The saddest song of all time?

  by Bad_Wolf in

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  i would pick this one https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=th2w6oxx0kq.

  i don't know how so many are happy or fine if thinking this life is it.

  haven't lost parents yet, but when with them, sometimes i'll think of this song.

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  Pete Zahut

  HappyDad

  Don't know how to post the video but Annie Lennox song "Why" is one that always got to me.

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HG7I4oniOyA&list=RDHG7I4oniOyA#t=26
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  The saddest song of all time?

  by Bad_Wolf in

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  2. entertainment

  i would pick this one https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=th2w6oxx0kq.

  i don't know how so many are happy or fine if thinking this life is it.

  haven't lost parents yet, but when with them, sometimes i'll think of this song.

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  Pete Zahut

  This song came out around the time I first started waking up and began experiencing the sad and terrible realization that I had been duped since childhood and everything I had hoped for and believed in was a fraud. At one point I couldn't listen to this song or have it come on the radio without sobbing. It reminds me of growing up as a JW during the turbulent 60's and all the momentous things that happened in history at that time. We thought we had all the answers as to why the things the way they were. It was easy to believe the Vietnam war, Kennedy and Martin Luther King assassinations, race riots etc, were all signs of the end rather than just another part of the worlds history that we happened to be alive during.

  This song made me sad for the little boy Pete who was only trying to be a child but was constantly being reminded by the adults around him that the world was going to come to a horrific end at any minute and when it did, God was going to kill my father, teacher, neighbor kids and grandparents because none of them wanted to become Jehovah's witnesses, and if little Pete wasn't a good enough JW, didn't answer enough at meetings, give good enough talks, and didn't go in field service enough, he'd be a goner as well.
  

  Here I am about to turn 60 and none of it happened, not one single thing and there's no way to go back an undo the irreversible damage or to make up for the losses that took place in my family because of the faceless men who made up the entire belief system of the Jehovah's Witness religion. Men who are long gone but the damage they caused, continues.
  

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5ekTCh5JiA0
  
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  The spinning blade of a Sword and the 2 Angels guarding the gate....

  by stuckinarut2 in

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  2. bible

  for some reason i found myself shaking my head once again in disbelief at the story in genesis.. amongst all things, the very concept of a "flaming sword" spinning around and blocking the "entrance to the garden of eden" is so stupid!.

  do people really believe that as a fact?.

  seriously, swords were not even invented at that time!

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  Pete Zahut

  ...and why did the garden have an entrance? Did Adam and Eve come and go from the Garden or was it meant for deliveries etc.
  
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  Good luck with that

  by Lost his mind in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  what is the big deal when you say "good luck with that" or he just had bad luck?

  i have never been a jw, but what is the problem with saying these things?

  my husband was so mad, he went to bed and would not talk to me.

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  Pete Zahut

  " What is the big deal when you say "good luck with that" or He just had bad luck? I have never been a JW, but what is the problem with saying these things? My husband was so mad, he went to bed and would not talk to me. ?????"
  

  Besides his JW understanding that "Luck" is a belief in some ungodly outside force, there is sometimes a note of sarcasm that is implied when one used the expression "good luck with that ". Sometimes that expression implies your doubt in the other persons chances for success on their own and that "good luck" is their only hope. It's almost like saying "fat chance".

  Husband: I'd like to invite my boss and all of my coworkers over for one of your famous home cooked dinners sometime.

  Wife: Oh yeah?? Well good luck with that ! (fat chance !)

  Maybe your husband felt you were doubting whatever it was you two were discussing at the moment and you were wishing him good luck as a way of telling him you weren't in agreement or weren't standing behind him.
  
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  A woman wearing a head covering in subjugation of men - absolutely mental

  by jambon1 in

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  2. friends

  how did they ever get away with that and how does it go down now, in today's society?.

  its fucking mental.

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  Pete Zahut

  I remember being embarrassed when I got baptized at 17 and my mom all the older sisters suddenly had to put a scarf on if I was present at a bible study they conducted or when it was their turn speak at a door.

  It was a crazy thing for women to endure but it seems to me, most guys don't want to be the "boss" of someone or be put in the position of having to be responsible or having all the answers just because of their gender. I was always suspect of anyone who actually wanted to be an elder or actually wanted his wife to be in subjection to him rather than an equal partner. I always thought it was a little weird that some women wanted their husbands to have a position in the congregation. Let's face it, the whole set up is warped and worst of all none of it is based in any kind of reality.
  
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  Some prayers really annoy me

  by stillin in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i realize that prayer is a really personal thing, but representing a group in prayer has become so full of cliche's that i just want to vomit sometimes.

  co week almost every prayer has the phrase "special week of activity" in it.. then there's "please look after the sick and afflicted.".

  not so much anymore, "please bless this food and the hands that prepared it.".

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  Pete Zahut

  Praying before meals, especially at restaurants, was always a teeth grinder for me.

  Just because Jesus prayed before passing the bread and wine around a million years ago, someone got the idea that we were supposed to pray before every meal.Toward the end of my JW career, whenever I was asked to pray at a meal or publicly in any form, I'd flatly and unabashedly refuse.

  The cliche prayer phrases I hated most were:

  "Jehovah , it is with bowed heads and humble hearts that we come before your heavenly throne in prayer"

  "We ask for a extra portion of your holy spirit be poured upon all those who couldn't be here this evening"
  

  "Please guide us and direct us as we make our way home from the meeting"

  "We leave this meeting in your care and keeping"
  
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  7 day conventions?

  by HereIgo in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  did any of you attend the old school week long conventions?

  i have heard stories and it seems like these were mostly in the 70's and 80's before my time.

  i couldn't imagine.

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  Pete Zahut

  Reading this post brought back a terrible memory for me.

  Yes....I was just thinking the same thing. Just thinking about myself as a kid during those 8 day assemblies, sitting under the broiling sun day after day in a jacket and tie, for over a week, counting down the talks one by one until sometimes 9:00 at night, is just too much for me to talk about right now. It was utter misery for a little boy. I think it did me some damage in terms of developing the habit of zoning out for hours at a time just to cope.

  It was utter religious fanatic, cult lunacy. The last one I attended was in 1974 when I got baptized, I'm thinking they did away with them after that. Everyone was so glad but they had to make it seem as if they were happy because Jehovah was lovingly providing a new direction for his followers and streamlining things due to the closeness of the end.

  I seriously need to have a glass of beer or wine right now just to get rid of the anxiety this post has brought up.
  
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  What Happens If the JW Beard Policy Stumbles a Person

  by Cold Steel in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  some of the videos on youtube really make the beard policy look ridiculous.

  i wondered what would happen if the jw beard policy caused someone to stumble?

  jesus most likely wore a beard, and charles taze russell had a beard.

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  If "stumbling" householders was their true concern, they'd quit going from door to door altogether.
  
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  Complete this sentence with only one word: THE TIME REMAINING IS...

  by steve2 in

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  the time remaining is... elastic.. .

  stash: /intesoft-inc.appspot.com/post/f0315d7a1cdf4d6498064881689ea032.html

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  Pete Zahut

  The time remaining is yours to enjoy.
  
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  Dealing with Elderly Parents Who Still Believe the jw Religion is the truth

  by lancelink in

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  2. experiences

  i left the religion back in 2008 right after my mother died,( the total lack of natural love/ affection was the final straw for me).. but my dad has become more and more focused on doing the wt bidding.. it just amazes me how he gushes on and on about the last days, his new bible studies, and meeting parts .

  but yet he makes no effort to have any type of relationship with his grandkids, there are 5 of them , non are witnesses.

  they are the children from several different sisters of mine, and myself.. so how do you deal with the witness stuff always being presented in conversations?.

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  Pete Zahut

  Like most JW's it is likely that your father has steeped himself in the religion more so these days, not out of a growing concern for others, rather it is because he realizes he has reached the stage in life where he is "circling the drain" and time is running out.

  Many JW's have convinced themselves that they love their neighbor but the main motivation for them is to save their own skin. If he was motivated by love, he would do all he could to reach his own grandchildren instead of focusing on knocking on the empty door of strangers. If he focused on his grandchildren however, he'd have to be more than a friendly stranger at the door who can walk away as soon as things get tough. With his grandchildren, he'd have to be himself and he'd have to stick around even when they asked tough questions that he has no answer for. It's easier for him to go through the motions and choose the other busy work that is part of being a JW. That way he can feel good about not having really done anything real.
  

  Coming to terms with ones own mortality is something that is best done gradually over ones lifetime rather than all at once. You are kind to let him continue on with the magical thinking that gets him through his days and nights, now that he has reached this stage in life. One day when he is gone, you will look back and feel good about having done your part to make his last years reasonably peaceful.